Build Emotional Vocabulary
Children need words for feelings before they can explain what is happening inside. Start with happy, sad, angry, scared, worried, jealous, proud, lonely, and excited.
Use stories and daily moments. Ask, 'What do you think the character is feeling?' or 'Which feeling is closest to your body right now?'
Use Calm Tools
Useful calm tools include slow breathing, counting, drinking water, drawing, squeezing a soft object, or sitting in a quiet space with an adult nearby.
The tool should not feel like punishment. It should feel like support while the feeling becomes smaller.
Talk After the Storm
Big conversations are easier after the child calms down. Keep it short: name the feeling, name the need, and discuss one next step.
Parents and teachers can say, 'The feeling was okay. The hitting was not okay. Next time we can ask for help or take space.'
Practical checklist
- Read the guide once before using it with a child.
- Pick one idea to try this week instead of doing everything at once.
- Use short questions and let the child answer in their own words.
- Connect the guide to a story, drawing, activity, or daily moment.
FAQ
Should parents stop children from crying?
Crying can be a normal release. Help the child feel safe and name the feeling instead of rushing to silence it.
Can stories teach feelings?
Yes. Stories help children see emotions from a safe distance and practise empathy.
What if a child cannot name the feeling?
Offer choices gently: angry, worried, tired, or disappointed. Over time, vocabulary grows.